Full transparency: I was a reluctant mother. No, I didn’t have an unplanned pregnancy; being a mother just wasn’t very high on my list of things I felt I absolutely needed to experience.
Getting there. It wasn’t my father,
telling me I’d “never feel complete without a child” (total bunk, but that was
his perspective). It was being newly married, and my somewhat older husband really
wanting another child (he was estranged from his daughter from a previous
I convinced myself that I could retain a professional life and be a mom, so I agreed to this new adventure.
Sparing my readers the tedium of yet another “hindsight” story, I’ll cut to the salient bits. Birthing my son was an ordeal ( he was 10 lbs.), but he has — without a doubt — been my most satisfying life experience so far. Not without struggles — the years between 18 and 21 were pretty rough — but an amazing growth experience that continues, even with my “baby” almost 26 years old. Still,choosing to bring a life into this world is not for the faint of heart, even when conditions are prime (health of mom and baby, adequate resources, supportive partner). It’s a decision that I made consciously and rationally; one from which there was no turning back.
Being a Mom, with a formal day of celebration each May, isn’t a title that is only for women who’ve made a baby (or two, or three). The emotions of mothering are very like what any woman feels when nurturing another person, pet, or project. Love, protection, security and total devotion; playfulness, joy and gentle guidance are all aspects of mothering.
So, Happy Mother’s Day to all women who are nurturing something or someone. We all need your love and the power it has to transform our world.